E-Harmony Meets Church Small Groups

Sometimes, I feel like a dating service. Seriously.

People regularly want me to connect them to a small group, or they want to know when is the next event we'll have where they can connect to a small group (an event I think would look strangely similar to a 7th grade dance).

I don't hate this part of my job, but sometimes I wish it could just be simpler... less institutional... more organic.

Try this conversation, for instance:

Q: Do you have any friends at Calvary?

A: Yes.

Follow-Up: Are they in a LIFEgroup?

A: Yes. (JOIN THEIR LIFEGROUP!)

A: No. (START A LIFEGROUP WITH THEM!)

another way this might go...

Q: Do you have any friends at Calvary?

A: No.

Follow-Up: Do you have any unsaved friends?

A: No. (MAKE SOME FRIENDS!)

A: Yes. (GET THEM SAVED AND START A LIFEGROUP WITH THEM!)

Seems simple, doesn't it?

Maybe if we were able to view "small groups" as a less formal program, and more as a life-sharing relationship, these types of conversations would make more sense?

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